Just got back from my date... Now I need advice

"Bandit" (2bandit)
08/29/2014 at 18:34 • Filed to: None

Her 328 e36 coupe is cool. She's the 5th owner and the car has 175,000mi on it and an auto, but it is still awesome. She's making it classier when she can. So far the car has an M3 bodykit, an M steering wheel, M wheels, she's removed tacky aftermarket window tint, and has more planned for it. Also, not to sound weird but she is really really hot. Now the bad part... I just happen to be in a long distance relationship with a girl who has been my best friend for years. What do I do? All your "lock" helped (yes it was a typo). Her car not pictured.

DISCUSSION (82)

Brian Silvestro > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:39

Be in relationship with E36 girl.

Don't tell long distance relationship girl.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:40

That was a typo???

Bandit > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 18:41

I'd feel like a dick but I'm really thinking about it.

Bandit > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
08/29/2014 at 18:41

Yeah but I got tons of cool pics as replies!

Brian Silvestro > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:44

You have nothing to lose as long as you're careful with your phone.

And you always have one to fall back on if you have to break it off with another.

Dsscats > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:44

How often do you see long distance girl?

Aaron James > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:46

You'll get over it really quick trust me. Don't mention it to long distance girl until it is serious, then tell her you're really lonely and think you should see other people until you can be together again.

norskracer98-ExploringTheOutback > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:46

Solution: Become a polygamist.

Bandit > Aaron James
08/29/2014 at 18:48

By god you're brilliant.

Tohru > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:48

Here's my advice: only put it in her trunk if you ask permission first.

Oh, and remove the kidneys from her car.

Good luck with the new girlfriend!

Bandit > Dsscats
08/29/2014 at 18:48

Not too often. We're at different colleges

B_dol > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:51

You're a freshman in college right. Why the eff do you have a girlfriend more than 2 minutes away.

Aaron James > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:52

Just lots of experience with women and dating and marriage in my 38 years on the planet.

lone_liberal > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:52

If you and LDR girl are exclusive then you MUST break up with her before doing anything with E36 girl. Otherwise you are being an ass. Cheaters never prosper, and sometimes they get their tires slashed.

Bandit > B_dol
08/29/2014 at 18:53

I don't know actually... That's a good question.

Bandit > Tohru
08/29/2014 at 18:56

Tohru Bait all the cars! When are you going to start creating monogrill 'shops again?

Kinja'd!!!

Manuél Ferrari > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 18:57

You are wise beyond your years

Tohru > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:58

I'm not gonna lie, it's going to take bribery.

Dsscats > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 18:58

I vote break up with her.....totally not E36 biased.....

Bandit > Tohru
08/29/2014 at 18:58

You denied ever creating them last time I asked

Manuél Ferrari > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:00

To give good advice I need you to answer questions first:

1. How far away is long distance girl?

2. I see long distance girl is your best friend. Do you love her mostly as a friend? Or are you also very romantically in love with her?

Bandit > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 19:01

2 hours, I don't know

Leadbull > Tohru
08/29/2014 at 19:01

I'll give you a high five* if you start doing that again.

*Not redeemable for cash

Svend > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:02

Try out the relationship wth the new girl, but tell her there is someone else at present at another college and see what happens. If she's okay and you both have something then you need to decide who you want to be with and why then choose, being honest with the other one why and break it of with them.

Tohru > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:04

I was humoring you. We both know it was Takuro Spirit that did all those shops.

Bandit > Tohru
08/29/2014 at 19:04

Bullshit

Eli's Got 2 > lone_liberal
08/29/2014 at 19:04

THIS. And LOL about the tires.

Leadbull > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:05

Define "long distance relationship".

Manuél Ferrari > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:05

This is my 2 cents:

*I don't think you are head over heels in love with long distance girl. If you were your answer would have been something like "I love her in all ways, it just sucks she is far away". Also since you're not really super far away you wouldn't mind the long distance relationship if you were totally in love with her. My guess is that you love her because you are such good friends. I've had a relationship like that before. I loved the girl but I could never marry her because I didn't lust after her. I still thought of other girls a lot and that's not good.

*You should date the new girl because if you don't you will probably regret it.

*You should be fair to the girl you are dating and break it off first. I like the idea someone else posted about being lonely and needing to see other people. Leave the door open to get back together in the future, if she is willing to leave it open.

Eli's Got 2 > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 19:05

You are something else. Haha

Brian Silvestro > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 19:06

I'm just thinking how it would benefit him most!

Tohru > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:06

He works at a Mitsubishi dealership for a living - he has to have something to keep himself occupied since Mitsu has taken the bold move of stocking cars at the dealerships but not actually selling any of them.

jsemerica > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:07

If it's meant to be with long distance girl, it'll happen eventually, definitely after E36 girl.

Eli's Got 2 > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 19:07

That's a dick move and you know it!!!!!!!!!!!!

Brian Silvestro > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 19:07

Dat phone though.

Brian Silvestro > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 19:08

Yeah, to the girls! But in theory, they'll never know!

What they don't know, won't hurt them.

Eli's Got 2 > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 19:10

Ok. I'll laugh when it happens to you. GTFO with that shit. No.

Bandit > Tohru
08/29/2014 at 19:11

Calling you out: http://nighthawkwill7.kinja.com/tohrubait-3397…

Brian Silvestro > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 19:12

It probably already has! But I don't know it.

Wait.

That sucks.

B_dol > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:13

I mean, every situation is different. I can tell you from personal experience that its good to explore a bit, meet and date new/different people before settling on things.

College is the easiest time to do that. It doesn't mean you need to whore it up, but if you are spending days/nights in or away to maintain a long distance relationship it better be the right girl.

Eli's Got 2 > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 19:14

Oh man, I just spit out my water on my desk. Damn it. That was good.

Yes, it fucking sucks. Don't do it.

Tohru > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:14

My account had been hacked! It was Takuro all along, that tricksy bastard.

Brian Silvestro > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 19:15

Kinja'd!!!

Eli's Got 2 > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 19:16

I was really hoping for that GIF. YAY!

Bandit > Tohru
08/29/2014 at 19:16

What an asshole! How could a Mazda employee do such a thing!

Jordan and the Slowrunner, Boomer Intensifies > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:17

It looks like Hitler...

E92M3 > B_dol
08/29/2014 at 19:21

^This

Brian Silvestro > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 19:22

It made so much sense.

Bandit > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 19:24

That's kind of scary accurate

Frank Grimes > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:25

dump this chick! M3 body kits on non M3 is lame bro!

Manuél Ferrari > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 19:26

Wait which phone?

Bandit > Frank Grimes
08/29/2014 at 19:26

But she at least cares about her car! That's much better than the girlfriend I had who drove a Mitsubishi Galant or the one who doesn't even have a car.

Eli's Got 2 > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 19:26

Mmmmmm hmmmmmm. Too bad you don't mean it.

Manuél Ferrari > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 19:27

I think he is just joking. But not totally sure, haha

Manuél Ferrari > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:28

Us older Opponauts have been through this all so we know what to do, haha

I just wish there was an Oppo for me when I was younger!

Eli's Got 2 > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 19:29

Haha. Yeah, he totally is. Brian is a Mack daddy. LOOOL

Frank Grimes > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:31

good points. I should add I wasnt totally serious only like 60% but if its girl you want to date I could go as low as %10 serious.

Manuél Ferrari > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 19:31

But we'll never know for sure! We can't tell if he just has the humor from It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia or if he really is like those characters!

Did you see my advice?

Tohru > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:34

I thought he worked for Nissan.

Brian Silvestro > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 19:35

LOL!

Manuél Ferrari > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 19:36

It's so funny cause it's the internet so we'll never actually know!

Eli's Got 2 > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 19:36

Oh, I think we have a good idea. Haha.

But, things tend to change and that lifestyle gets old and boring and you start really just wanting that 1 person who really gets you. You know? I dunno.

I saw it. :)

Conan > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:37

Depends on how you feel about the long distance thing.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:43

Oh wait, you wanted relationship advice/help? How can I be of some service?

Manuél Ferrari > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 19:50

Haha maybe we do. Who knows. Brian might act like the Mack Daddy who will never love girls more than cars but then he might tell us tomorrow that he's head over heels for a girl and wants to marry her. Life changes quickly! And when guys fall for a girl they fall hard. I still have dreams about that one crazy girl I fell for even though I haven't seen or talked to her for a while and know I never will, and I fully realize how lame she is and how it would never have worked. But I still have dreams that we're hanging out sometimes. Not hooking up or anything like that, just chilling. Pretty crazy how you can get attached to someone on such a level that it's unconscious and comes back in your dreams way after you're consciously over them.

Saw your stars, thanks :)

Little Black Coupe Turned Silver > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 19:54

Advice from a girl ahead:

Stop right now until you clear things up with your long distance relationship. End it, realize she's the only girl you want, enter into an agreement where you can see other people while you're apart. Whatever works for you.

If the BMW girls finds out you're doing things behind another girl's back, she most likely isn't going to be happy.

Eli's Got 2 > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 19:55

I could see that happening to him. I don't think you are as over crazy bitch as you think you are, yet. It takes time. In the meantime... Have fun! Have sex in your car! Haha! You guys are seriously insane. But, as your friend, it's hilarious!

Welcome.

Manuél Ferrari > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 20:01

I know I'm not! I totally am consciously (I fucking hate her) but I guess my subconscious either still wants to hang out with her, or is still traumatized and not over that trauma.

Haha yeah we crazy. And it's good cause it gives you lulz

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 20:03

Long distance NEVER works. NEVER, EVER, EVER. Go for BimmerGirl

Vince-The Roadside Mechanic > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 20:06

Who do you love more?

Vince-The Roadside Mechanic > Brian Silvestro
08/29/2014 at 20:08

Brian you just made me proud your becoming a Jackass just like me *hugs*.

Eli's Got 2 > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 20:12

I know that feeling, very well. :( sorry. Eventually you won't even think about her. Or, rarely.

YASSSSS.

Much crazy

Many lulz

Have a good weekend! Ttyl

Manuél Ferrari > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 20:23

Thank you! And sorry you know it well too. Hopefully it builds character and makes us stronger :)

Much 3 day weekend

Many drinks. Well not for me because cold but maybe you

Have a good one too!

Eli's Got 2 > Manuél Ferrari
08/29/2014 at 20:28

It builds a wall, that's for sure. Lol

No, I have to work. No drunken craziness for me. But I'm seeing some friends, and that will be fun.

Manuél Ferrari > Eli's Got 2
08/29/2014 at 20:29

A character wall, lol

Aw I'm sorry. I hope you can at least sneak in a drink tonight :)

Have fun!

bhardoin > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 21:07

-Date new girl, tell her long distance girl is a friend before she finds out and thinks you're scheming
-tell long distance girl that its not worth having a relationship if you can't see each other, maybe some time in the future if stuff works out.

BlazinAce - Doctor of Internal Combustion > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 21:14

I just remembered I had a date today, at noon, for lunch with this girl who's going to study abroad for a year. It's 10 pm.

Fak. It probably goes without saying, but don't be me.

Bandit > Little Black Coupe Turned Silver
08/29/2014 at 21:17

Thanks

BJohnson11 > Bandit
08/29/2014 at 21:22

From my experience, long distance relationships (especially with college freshman) almost never work out. That said, I wouldn't try to keep both girls on the hook. If you're good friends with the girl from back home and want to stay good friends, dont go sneaking around her back, because that wont end well. If you dont see a future with long distance girl, break it off and focus your efforts elsewhere with an uncluttered, guilt free mind.

Or ya know, fuck it all and get some strange at college and keep long distance girl on the hook so you can get some at home too. You're only 18 once.

Eli's Got 2 > Manuél Ferrari
08/30/2014 at 20:01

Haha

I had to work (still at work till who knows when) so no drinking at all. Going out tonight...But I have to work tomorrow, so I won't drink tonight either. Monday....Maaaaaaybe. Probably not, though. I'm on a "diet" [eats all the seafood tonight] lol and alcohol is no bueno for that. No pasta! I'm dying!

Hope you feel better! Have a good one! :D

Manuél Ferrari > Eli's Got 2
08/30/2014 at 21:02

Omg so much work!!! I'm sorry. Have fun though tonight. Eat all the seafood :)

thedevilinside > Bandit
09/01/2014 at 10:13

Just saw this. Couple pieces of advice from someone in a long distance college relationship.

1) 2 hours isn't that long of a long distance relationship.

2) You've only been in college for 1 week of classes and you're already having these thoughts and going on dates with other girls. Break up with the girl 2 hours away, it isn't going to work out.

3) You're more than likely not going to be near as happy with someone further away, you have tons of girls around. Some of them will be cool.

- Just don't try my girlfriend. :)